With 2025 rushing to it’s close, new goals seem to pop up out of thin air. This column is written to remind you: you can choose anytime.
You don’t have to wait to improve your health. You can assess what’s working for you and what’s not and adjust at anytime. You can decide drinking isn’t worth the headache and give away that unopened birthday bottle of wine. You can notice you’re out of breath playing with the kids and schedule a daily family walk to improve your fitness. You can take the stairs or park further away every chance you get. You can feel your clothes getting tighter and decide to go back to the gym. Your health is up to you, don’t wait.
You don’t have to wait to improve your village. You don’t have to hang out with people that aren’t good influences. You can decide to leave behind gossipers, bullies, and cliques when you realize they aren’t who you want to be. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with, choose them wisely – not by approximation or shallow reasoning like kids ages or similar activities. Look for those that inspire you to be a better person, I promise they are out there. Your surrounding village is up to you, don’t wait.
You don’t have to wait to improve your family. You can pick a day of the week and implement family meeting that night. You can start new traditions at anytime. You can ask a friend to be an accountability buddy for not yelling the moment you realize you want to change it. You can call the kiddos over for a hug and tell them you love them the very moment yo decide to. Your family culture is up to you, don’t wait.
You don’t have to wait to improve your relationship. Close the gap, swallow your pride, and reach out first. Hold hands while talking about tough topics. Snuggle before falling asleep. Put down your phones and play – a card game, a board game, a wrestling match, whatever. Take a deep breath, decide to be vulnerable, and tell your person how much they mean to you. Choose to connect. Your relationships quality is up to you, don’t wait.
You don’t have to wait to improve your life. New Year’s is just another day in the grand scheme of things. Now is better than next week. A new you doesn’t have to wait until a new month. Choose the friend, the spouse, the mom, the person you want to be, and go be it. Your life is up to you, don’t wait.
Disclaimer/Reality Check: This topic has the potential to get a lot of pushback, but I truly believe in its premise. There is always something you can improve in the moment. Don’t love your current home? Clean and care for it & see how that improves your feelings for it. Want to improve your finances? Write down all your expenses and make a budget. This column will be about motherhood, parenting, and homemaking for the most part. It may be a diatribe against wrapping paper or a list of the best Christmas carols for a toddler dance party. Most importantly, I don’t ever want this column to make another mama think she’s not doing enough. If you’re reading this, I want you to know that you are, you’re doing great, keep it up. Sing it with me: no-one is doing it allllll!
